This title alone can sometimes seem like a daunting task, especially when you have been made to feel less than your entire life. Every person on earth was created with a purpose and gifts that are unique to them. Sure there are similar people, but just like snowflakes not one person is the same as another. You are worthy of great things, you are worthy of happiness. God don't make trash!
Sometimes we have to have someone prove our worth to us, or have God prove it. I find it is better to prove it to yourself. You have to start by not being overly critical of yourself. Everyone has flaws and it is important to remember that.
Learning to love yourself and be happy with you in the place you are in now, is an important thing to do. Now when I say be happy with you in the place you are, doesn't mean you can't improve on who you are, or that you don't acknowledge your flaws and try to work on them. You have to be ok with you in spite of your inperfections and it makes it easier to move on and work on your personal needs.
I would encourage you to make a list of all the things that are wonderfully unique to you. I will share my list with you and maybe it will help to start yours.
My list of my gifts
1. people are always envious of my hair
2. I have a good singing voice
3. I have a caring heart
4. I am funny
5. I am smart
6. my family are wonderful people
7. I have a son who is always clothed fed and taken care of.
8. I have a passion for those who are hurting
9. I have been given a great church family
10.I have been through hell and survived
Notice that very few things on this list have something to do with what other people think. The only one is my hair, I put that on here, because I am always so critical about my hair, but I have always had people say they wished they had the thick wavy hair that I have (they can have it lol) but it is a gift, I could be bald.
I know if I took the time my list would be longer, but alot of these things don't get thought about when I am hating myself because of whatever reason.
It is so important to remember that the way you look can always change but who you are as a person doesn't always and although you can change things in your life you will always be you, so you have to learn to be happy with that. You can get plastic surgery but then you will find another problem, you can lose weight but then discover something else you don't like about you. Until you learn that you are great now, making changes in your life will not work.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
I AM LIVID!
Well as promised, I am talking about moving forward from anger in this post. Yes I said I would do it tomorrow, but I can't sleep and well, here it is.
I have been angry for 4 days now, I don't mean a little upset. I mean so angry that I can't focus on anything else for 4 days. Angry enough to take it out on people who didn't even know why I was angry. I came to a realization as I was cooking my dinner tonight, I don't even know the people I am angry at. I needed to decide why I was angry, and move on. So many times we get mad and really don't know why we are really mad. I am mad not at this one situation, or even about the thing that started it. I am mad because all my life I have always allowed other people to make me feel like they wanted me to. I am mad that I let someone else make me second guess who I was. I am livid that I allowed someone to make me second guess my worth as a human being. Ok, so now I have analyzed myself, I know why I am angry, now what amd I going to do about it.
I have to make a clear plan to move on, and get over this anger at others and at myself. It is more than just making a choice to move on. You have to really make an effort, and that is where I am at right now. I know I am a good, but flawed person, and I am worth just as much as anyone else. I have to just leave all of the reminders of my anger in the dust and focus on me and what is good for me. Having so much anger inside me is not good for me, it makes me a crazy obcessive mess. I am not perfect, but I am a good mom to a child who would not be on this earth if it weren't for my husband and I. I am not the best, but I am a good loving wife to a husband who doesn't always remember that he is suppose to cherish me. I am surely no Celine Dion, but I am a pretty good singer. I am funny, and have alot to offer the world, so I am moving on.
I have been angry for 4 days now, I don't mean a little upset. I mean so angry that I can't focus on anything else for 4 days. Angry enough to take it out on people who didn't even know why I was angry. I came to a realization as I was cooking my dinner tonight, I don't even know the people I am angry at. I needed to decide why I was angry, and move on. So many times we get mad and really don't know why we are really mad. I am mad not at this one situation, or even about the thing that started it. I am mad because all my life I have always allowed other people to make me feel like they wanted me to. I am mad that I let someone else make me second guess who I was. I am livid that I allowed someone to make me second guess my worth as a human being. Ok, so now I have analyzed myself, I know why I am angry, now what amd I going to do about it.
I have to make a clear plan to move on, and get over this anger at others and at myself. It is more than just making a choice to move on. You have to really make an effort, and that is where I am at right now. I know I am a good, but flawed person, and I am worth just as much as anyone else. I have to just leave all of the reminders of my anger in the dust and focus on me and what is good for me. Having so much anger inside me is not good for me, it makes me a crazy obcessive mess. I am not perfect, but I am a good mom to a child who would not be on this earth if it weren't for my husband and I. I am not the best, but I am a good loving wife to a husband who doesn't always remember that he is suppose to cherish me. I am surely no Celine Dion, but I am a pretty good singer. I am funny, and have alot to offer the world, so I am moving on.
Get to know me
I am Suzanne Koelling a 33 year old mother of one, and a wife. I am a stay at home mom for the time being, and I love that. I wish we had more money but the time spent with my family is undescribable. I am a Christian, one with flaws, but I believe in the Bible, and the power of God thru Christ Jesus is a wonderous thing, and he still performs miracles. I believe that God loves all of us the same, and sees our hearts not our bodies.
Guess what? I am fat. Obese, overweight, whatever you want to call me, it is true, that is what I am. I am not completely this way because I don't exercise, and because I eat poorly. This is partially true but not completely the only reason. The reasons however do not matter. What does matter is that I am a really cool person with a lot of interests and talent. I have been given so many great gifts, and have a great life, except sometimes I am self concious, and feel like I am not worth much. I feel this way and then it my feelings are "confirmed" by someone who is hateful and uncaring. If it were an issue of race or religion someone would be outraged, saddend or even ispired to act on my behalf. No need I am all of those things,and I am acting. Yes I am a big girl, but in God's eyes I am perfectly and wonderfully made, and he thinks I and you are to die for.
Please feel free to share your stories with me as well. Tomorrow I plan on talking about how to move forward fromanger and become better than what you are facing, I would love to hear how you have done this or struggles that you are trying to overcome.
Guess what? I am fat. Obese, overweight, whatever you want to call me, it is true, that is what I am. I am not completely this way because I don't exercise, and because I eat poorly. This is partially true but not completely the only reason. The reasons however do not matter. What does matter is that I am a really cool person with a lot of interests and talent. I have been given so many great gifts, and have a great life, except sometimes I am self concious, and feel like I am not worth much. I feel this way and then it my feelings are "confirmed" by someone who is hateful and uncaring. If it were an issue of race or religion someone would be outraged, saddend or even ispired to act on my behalf. No need I am all of those things,and I am acting. Yes I am a big girl, but in God's eyes I am perfectly and wonderfully made, and he thinks I and you are to die for.
Please feel free to share your stories with me as well. Tomorrow I plan on talking about how to move forward fromanger and become better than what you are facing, I would love to hear how you have done this or struggles that you are trying to overcome.
Inspired by hatred
How is it possible for this day age for people to still be so openly hateful. I mean you can barely say a word without being called out for it, unless you are speaking about one group. The overweight and obese, we are considered non human the drege of society, the dirty smudge on our otherwise beautiful (haha) society.
I have had enough!!! Yes it is good to be healthy, but skinny people are also unhealthy sometimes and it is just not as obvious to see. This is not an issue of health though, not of the physical kind anyway.
Judgement of people is never acceptable, we are not put on this earth to judge one another. We have been put on this earth for the purposes of our creator and he only looks at our hearts not our outsides. Now before you think I have a holier than thou attitued I will say this, I am guilty of trying to get revenge (in a round about way) to someone for their judgement of others. Not cool. I have decided to change my passion to helping and lifting up the judged ones and letting them know they are beautiful.
The reason for this blog is to help people who are overweight get love and support. We will discuss weight, health, beauty, family and more. There will be no bad language or severe negativity placed on people because you agree or disagree. We will never come down and bash on one person or group.
I have had enough!!! Yes it is good to be healthy, but skinny people are also unhealthy sometimes and it is just not as obvious to see. This is not an issue of health though, not of the physical kind anyway.
Judgement of people is never acceptable, we are not put on this earth to judge one another. We have been put on this earth for the purposes of our creator and he only looks at our hearts not our outsides. Now before you think I have a holier than thou attitued I will say this, I am guilty of trying to get revenge (in a round about way) to someone for their judgement of others. Not cool. I have decided to change my passion to helping and lifting up the judged ones and letting them know they are beautiful.
The reason for this blog is to help people who are overweight get love and support. We will discuss weight, health, beauty, family and more. There will be no bad language or severe negativity placed on people because you agree or disagree. We will never come down and bash on one person or group.
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